Postpartum Depression: Part 2

Once someone has postpartum depression, just coping with it can seem daunting. I'm not an expert with it, but here's some things that greatly helped me.

Meet with your doctor. They are there to help and they understand what you are going through. Yes, it can be hard to go- simply because it is hard to admit that you need help. I waited 2 months before I met with my doctor for this very reason. But it was worth it. Don't wait like I did and suffer longer than necessary. Believe me, your doctor will give you the options you need and none of the judgement you don't.

When I had postpartum depression, I hated being alone. I craved company whenever Will left for work. It wasn't that I was afraid of being along with a new baby- I was just lonely. If you feel the same way, have someone come and visit with you- even an hour makes a difference. I had an aunt who let me spend the day with her a few times a month. I also had neighbors and friends who came to visit me- even at a moments notice. Don't hesitate to ask for company. Adjusting to life with a new baby is hard enough, so don't do it alone.

Get out of the house. Whether it is going to visit a friend or going for a walk. The moment the weather was warm enough to take Aubrey on a walk, I happily went. A change of scenery, if only for an hour, does wonders. And so does exercise. Endorphins really do make you happy- it's true! So strap your baby in a stroller or carrier and go for a walk.

This next one is tough. Believe me, I've been there. But here it is... get sleep!! When your baby sleeps, you sleep. Don't worry about starting a load of laundry or doing the dishes. Just focus on what you need.
If your baby isn't sleeping, and you need sleep, don't be afraid to ask someone to watch your baby. I promise there is someone who would happily come over for an hour and let you get your snooze on.

Something I did not do enough of during my postpartum depression was eat. Your body needs food to function and if there isn't enough of it, you will suffer. I was too anxious and depressed to eat, so I simply didn't. Do not do this. Eat healthy, good for you food.

In order for me to get through the week, I needed something to look forward to. Whether is was a visit to my aunt's home, Will's day off, a beautiful drive, or someone coming over, it all helped. Find something to look forward to. Don't hesitate to invite someone over- dirty dishes and laundry don't keep people away.

Finally, stop feeling guilty and inadequate. I remember comparing myself to other first time moms who seemed to have everything perfectly situated. Not only was I comparing assumptions, rather than reality, I was bringing a whole lot of unhappiness that wasn't needed into my life. So dare to not compare. It's okay that you have postpartum depression and aren't quite yourself. Don't feel guilty about that!

It is my sincere hope that these things that helped me may help you. I wish I had the magical answer to make the pain of postpartum depression go away, but I don't. However, start small with one day at a time, and you will find hope. And most importantly, you will be able to enjoy your time being a mom.